Creating a comforting bedtime routine for your kids
Me and my mom. She is holding a print I made of the nightly prayer she used to say to my sisters and I at bedtime.
As someone who has spent years working through my own worries, I can vividly remember the anxiety that crept in as bedtime approached when I was a kid.
Sundays were particularly tough. Any hopes of sleep before a test were usually dashed, and the night before a performance or a big tennis match? Forget it.
But the hardest nights of all were the ones before going back to school after a long break. I’d be a bundle of nerves.
Even though I usually enjoyed school, there were still times when the thought of returning filled me with unease.
That’s when my mom stepped in with a comforting routine that helped ease my mind.
Despite being exhausted herself (raising four daughters is no small feat!), she would always tuck me in, saying a prayer or singing a song to calm my worries. We’d chat about whatever was on my mind, and if I still couldn’t sleep, I’d write my worries down in a little notepad I kept on my nightstand. That simple act of putting my thoughts on paper helped me find peace.
Tonight, on the eve of my boys' first day back to school, I want to do the same for them. With two out of three starting at new schools tomorrow, I know they’re feeling a mix of emotions, even if they’re not showing it.
So, we’re putting a nightly routine in place to help ease their nerves, and I thought it might be helpful for your little ones too.
Get the backpack ready: Make sure everything’s packed and even prepare their lunch the night before if you’re feeling extra motivated. Don’t forget a little lunch note for some midday encouragement. Download my free lunch notes here.
Pick out tomorrow’s outfit: This avoids any morning decision-making stress.
Shower or bathe in the evening: If your kids aren’t teens yet, an evening bath can be relaxing. For the older ones, a fresh shower in the morning works too.
Get ready for bed: Fresh pajamas, brushed teeth, combed hair—yes, I have to remind my kids of each step too.
Read a book together: Spend some time discussing the story; it’s a nice way to unwind.
Say a prayer or express gratitude: These words of comfort can help soothe lingering worries.
Write down any remaining concerns: If your child still has worries on their mind, encourage them to jot them down. This was a game-changer for me during my anxious college years, and I still do it now. I even designed a cute notepad just for this purpose, with versions for both kids and adults. (See below)
A consistent routine like this can bring so much peace to their little hearts.
Thanks for reading, friends. I’m sending good vibes to all the kids, teachers, and staff heading back to school. You’ve got this!
Good night, sleep tight.
Annie xo
Nightstand Notes for the bedside table, available at Northbound Mind & Body Shop in Minoa, NY.
Original post from September 3, 2019